Nedra's Story as Told by her Loved Ones
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Preface.
Nedra's family present an honest, candid and intimate portrayal of this wonderful woman.
In the first several sections, we have highlighted the milestones, events and circumstances that we think were among her more memorable and set the stage for who she was; we have also emphasized events that were meaninful to us. Here and there, we have fleshed out the text by injecting eye-grabbing images to remind readers that this story is about a person--not a date, not a place.
In the next section ("Glimpses . . ."), we go beyond the cold statistics to capture her essence: over the years, which of her traits and interests made her so dear to us? Was she reliable, dependable, conscientious, smart, welcoming . . . (The answer is yes, yes, yes, yes, yes; but, you must go to that section to know why).
We extend our sincere condolences to others who have experienced the unimaginable pain of losing a loved one so dear.
FOLLOWING IS AN ALTERNATIVE DEVELOPED AFTER GOING BACK AND FORTH WITH AI. WHICH ONE DO YOU LIKE BEST? HOW WOULD YOU SUGGEST TAKING THE BEST OF EACH? IF I CANNOT ENGAGE THE READER WI 250 WORDS, I LOSE THEM. Their first version was AI speak, but I think it might have gone too colloquial now? I don't want to attract the kind of people who admire Gingrich ("a stupid person's idea of a smart persoin" or at the other end, John Kennedy (R-LA), the wanna be columbo.
Preface
Nedra was our wife, our mother, our center. This is our attempt to show you who she was.
The first sections set out the facts—where she was born, where she lived, what she did. Those things matter. They mark the path of her life. We’ve included photographs along the way to keep this grounded in the reality of a person, not just names and dates.
But those facts are not the point.
The section titled “Glimpses of Nedra’s Life Through the Ages” is where you begin to know her. In those pages you will see how she lived—how she treated people, what she cared about, what she took pride in, and what she gave of herself, day after day.
If you spend time there, you will understand why she meant so much to us.
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Early Life
Nedra was the first-born of barely 17-year-old Betty Joan née Laird Norton (1931-2002) and 24-year-old James Elisha (“J.E.”) Norton (1923-1995). She made her debut at the hospital in Porterdale (Newton County, GA); at the time, there was no hospital in Rockdale County. Betty, listed as a housewife on the birth certificate, was born in Rockdale County and took her mother’s maiden name because her father’s name was never disclosed by Betty’s mother, Merle. Her Laird family had been in Georgia since the first quarter of the 19th century. J.E., listed as a carpenter on the birth certificate, was born in Jefferson County, TN, where Nedra in her youth noted the poverty of relatives when she attended the funeral of her greatgrandmother Kate née Phillips Lane (1881-1957). From public records, we find that J.E. completed the 7th grade, had only worked 26 weeks in 1939, but got on with the CCC by the 1940 Population Census; possibly, J.E. learned his carpentry skills in the CCC. Later records show that he spent 1941-1945 in the Marine Corps (Corporal, field artillery), where he participated in the horrific campaigns of the Pacific, APO San Francisco. He indicated on several occasions that he engaged in combat at close quarters and recounted an instance in which a dying man he shot pulled out a photo of his wife and showed it to J.E.
.jpg) J.E. and Betty married secretly while she was still in high school and he was rebounding from his military experience, including malaria. It was his second marriage. Their situation was challenging and both Betty and J.E. were soon working in a cotton mill. Nedra was cared for at night by others and entertained herself during the day while her parents slept. Context is everything.
Nedra Lynn Norton was delivered by Dr. Joe Brown; later, he had privileges in Conyers in a new hospital. During Nedra’s youth, he lived in Conyers (13 miles from Porterdale). Nedra’s first given name was selected from an announcement in one of the Atlanta papers; likely, Georgia-born Nedra Tyre, an author and social worker, who published Red Wine First in 1947, was the inspiration. The 26 chapters in this book comprise autobiographical sketches of disadvantaged people and that probably resonated with Nedra’s parents. Lynn was simply a common girl’s name then. Nedra’s grandfather Alva Arthur Norton, a partially disabled victim of mustard gas in WWI (according to oral history), lived on a dead-end lane off Zingara Road later in life. When Nedra was born, we think J.E. and Betty lived in one of the nearby cluster of houses (which A.A. owned) because Betty related that she walked through a field and up a hill to A.A.’s then-residence on Hi-Roc Road and asked A.A. to take her to the hospital. (J.E. was not mentioned so we infer that he was probably at work.) We do not know why A.A. refused. Fortunately, A.A.’s maternal uncle Eugene Maddox from Atlanta was on hand and drove Betty to Porterdale, which is where her story begins. Nedra had two younger brothers, who will be discussed later.
NEDRA AND DENNIS Nedra and Dennis were beautiful children and must have been J.E. and Betty's pride and joy.
Photo credits: The source materials for the images of Mr. and Mrs. Norton and for Nedra as a young girl were from the Norton estate. Marvin Pass, Nedra's great-uncle, was the source of her baby photo, the first image of her that Bill is aware of. (Marvin was the husband of Alma Laird Pass, one of Nedra's maternal grandmother's older sisters.)
(This section was written by Nedra and her husband, Bill.)
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Nedra during her Elementary-school Years.
TWO IN ONE SCHOOL PHOTOS Nedra attended the Rockdale County public schools. To use an expression that I learned from her, she was a cutie patootie. Looking at these school photos, I can't imagine that her teachers didn't adore her.
TWO IN ONE lAIRD PHOTOS Nedra's words: "[The photo on the far left was] made in front of my childhood home on Highway 20 in Rockdale County, Georgia. At this time, the porch was still screened, having later been changed into a sunroom. Back row: Me, Vic Davis (next door neighbor), Dennis Norton (my brother), Jimmy Laird (Uncle Pete and Aunt Gladys' son). Front row: Pat Laird, Mariah Kiser, Janet Laird, and Judy Laird. The woman in the background is either Aunt Gladys or my mother, Betty Laird Norton. . . . I note I am wearing orthopedic shoes, which were bought for me when I was in the third grade, so that defines the date of these photos. I expect Aunt Gladys made her daughters' dresses, as she usually did. She was known to stay up all night finishing dresses for the girls to wear the next day." The other photo shows Nedra with Merle (her maternal grandmother), Dennis, and Mariah (Betty's half-sister). Nedra took comfort in Merle's love for her. Nedra's brother Dennis L. Norton (1950-) became an architect, receiving his degree from Georgia Tech.
NEDRA W BRIAN AS A BABY Nedra expressed delight when her younger brother, Brian S. Norton (1959-2005), was born. In this image, they are sitting in a chair re-uphostered by the Nortons, who then had an uphostery shop.
BRIANS BIRTHDAY PARTY
Photo Credits:The source materials were in Nedra's collection.
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Nedra in high school.
High-school years comprise a formative period in the lives of most young Americans. Many paths can lead to a fulfilling life; highlights of hers are here. During this period, she prepared for university studies, acquried new skills, contributed to her school and matured socially.
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CITIZENSHIP
BAND
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DIPLOMA
Nedra's classmates described her as "always an active, cordial and fun-loving person,"MORE HERE
Photo Credits:The source materials were in Nedra's collection.
(This section was written by Nedra 's husband, Bill. Special thanks to Judy Bond for assistance with background information.)
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Nedra at the University of Georgia.
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(This section was written by Nedra 's husband, Bill, and based on source material in Nedra's personal effects and discussions with Bill.)
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Nedra and Bill meet.
It took Fate a couple of tries to unite Nedra and me. Aunt Ellen--Granny Della’s sister--married Reilly Hooper from Monticello, GA, whose sister Lousie married Robert Aiken. The Aikens had a daughter, Brenda, now deceased, who visited Aunt Ellen’s daughter, Wynelle Dorminey, and thus Brenda and I met in Nashville. Brenda and I got together at the University of Georgia; she was one of the nicest people you could meet. She set me up with a date with Nedra, who lived on the same floor in North Myers. Nedra was an incoming freshman then (Fall Quarter, 1966).
I fell in love with Nedra on first sight, as I’ve said many times. She was the most feminine creature I had ever seen. The essence of beauty. I loved everything about her, her soft skin, her poise, her reserved behavior, her sweet demeanor, . . . . I was smitten. A day didn't pass since my first meeting her but I did not think of her I am ashamed that I was immature, self-centered, WAY too rowdy for a girl of her nature, and generally not respectful. I did not know--and indeed could not have known--that subsequent DNA analysis would reveal that genetically I have a strong propensity (top category) toward "risky behavior." Physical risky behavior is one of the most strongly expressed genetic personality traits, nom 55%, and is associated with many negative outcomes like alcoholism, drug addiction, sexual promiscuity, . . . She terminated our upstart relationship for cause.
As mentioned, Fate had a second shot at uniting us, and this time, it worked. I called Nedra in late spring, 1970, and she agreed to go out with me. On our first date, she prepared Country Captain, which became my favorite dish (and which Will and Harrison made for our intimate family dinner at the farm following her death).
The profile photograph is the first that I ever made of her and it captures her joy in being reunited with me. She had not forgotten me either! I was lucky; she felt the same way and expressed it in an card she wrote for our 37th anniversary.
The photograph of her sitting in my lap is also one of my favorites of this period. Young love.
PHOTO OF COUNTRY CAPTAIN
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OF FIRST PICTURE, PROFILE
PHOTO OF ANNIVERSARY CARD
PHOTO OF HER SITTING IN MY LAP
Photo credits: The image of Nedra sitting in my lap was made by the late William H. Stephens, later
rheumatologist in Savannah. Bill was my house guest during the summer of 1970.
(This section was written by Nedra's husband, Bill.)
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Nedra and Bill Marry in Athens, GA.
We married on Monday, September 27th, 1971, and she died 19,692 days later, on Tuesday, August 26, 2025. Marriages are not made in Heaven; they’re worked on here on Earth. This brief story is a summary of how ours began.
I don’t recall that Nedra and I ever discussed getting married; we both just took it as an article of faith that we would. I fell in love with her at first sight when she was a freshman at UGA and we dated for some while before she broke it off for more good reasons than I care to say, as mentioned earlier. After we rekindled, we soon became exclusive. She graduated from UGA in the spring of 1970 and moved to Decatur and worked for a home decorating company. During that period, she visited with me and sometimes I went to Decatur, stayed with my sister, Carolyn, and we would see each other that way. She returned to Athens for Winter term, 1971, to begin graduate work (and be with me) and shared an apartment with Marilyn Sloan and other sorority sisters, but they saw less of her than I did.
Nedra was squeamish. I asked her to take a ride with me, and it ended at the health department. Then, I revealed our mission (to get blood tests, which were required for a marriage license).
We decided to get married, soon, on the following Monday late afternoon. She taught in Hartwell, and I was on the UGA campus. We set the time to meet at the courthouse. That was a little dicey for me because the departmental seminar was on Monday afternoons and it was strictly forbidden to miss one. I took my chance and sneaked out the back door. I made it to the right place at the right time, but where was Nedra? What happened to that girl? Did she have second thoughts? Would she make it before they closed?
You know how the story ended; she did make it. She had gotten mixed up and had gone to the city hall (instead of the courthouse). We got married.
What a coincidence that I was not the only UGA plant biologist who got married that day. Alan Jaworski (then an assistant professor) and Ida Yates (then a graduate student) were there to get married, too. They were doing it on the sly as fraternization at this level among students and faculty was, at the least, frowned on. They asked us to keep their marriage a secret and we did. Ida was easy to like and Alan ultimately became a popular chair of the department and a UGA amphitheater is named after him; he died young, in 2000 at age 57. Ida remained in Athens and in science and died in 2022. They had two children. Thus, only one of the four love birds that looked to the future that day remain as this narrative was written in 2026.
Art credit: Granddaughter Kate Crawford, then age 7, sketched and water-colored the Clarke County, GA, courthouse where the wedding took place.
(This section was written by Nedra and and her husband, Bill.)
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Nedra's work early in our marriage.
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SCHOOL MARM PHOTO, MASTER'S DIPLOMA, MAYBE OTHERS
(This section was written by Nedra's husband, Bill.)
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The Outlaws move to Michigan, where Will was born.
xFifty years ago, a baby boy was born in Sparrow Hospital, Lansing, MI, to Nedra and Bill Outlaw. His given names were a combination of family names [William Henry Harrison “Dick” Outlaw (1840-1910) → Lucious G. Outlaw (1873-1918) → William Henry Outlaw (1912-1986) → William Harrison “Bill” Outlaw Jr. (1946-)] plus [Mark R. Watson (1816-1898) → Samuel W. Watson (1863-1925) → Mark A. Watson (1896-1959) → A. Christine née Watson Outlaw (1918-2001) → William Harrison “Bill” Outlaw Jr. (1946-)]. W.H.H. Outlaw was born a year before the short presidency of William Henry Harrison. Harrison’s popular fame was based on his military career, esp. his defeat of Tecumseh’s confederacy (though Harrison had political experience as early as the 18th century). Harrison’s father had been a revolutionary soldier. Harrison’s profile likely appealed to W.H.H.’s father, Alexander, who had been an “Indian fighter” and whose grandfather Benjamin was a revolutionary soldier. I do not have reliable information concerning the origin of Mark R. Watson’s given names; possibly the R. is for Rouse, which is maybe his mother’s maiden name. Likely, Mark R. was illegitimate. Patsy had children by several men and was kicked out of the church for adultery. Of course, “Mark” was altered to Marcus to fit our tastes.
Will’s birth was a dramatic milestone, but neither the beginning nor the end. Will’s due date was two weeks later, but thanks to Bruder, his birth moved up. On the night of Jan 25/26 (~10 pm), Bruder had been enjoying a bone by the bed as I tried to sleep. I reached down and pulled the bone from him and he growled; over time, he had become confrontational, a dangerous trait in a dog of his size and power. He and I had a fight that ended up in the bathroom, where I pulled off the shower-curtain rod and used it to gain the upper hand. Then, I dispatched him to the basement. His recovery was a testament to his strength. Of course, for minutes, Nedra did not know who was winning and the stress caused her to go into labor ~2 am; it was a long labor, about 15 h, before Will was born at 5 pm. It appeared that a C-section was coming up (dreaded for Nedra and for our finances since we had no insurance and I was on poverty wages as a post-doc in the Biochemistry Department, MSU). The OB was an obnoxious SOB (in sharp contrast to Elizabeth’s); he told me to put my camera away. I thought he was worried that I’d use flash (a potential hazard and distraction). It turned out he thought I’d sneak around and take compromising photos of other women. When he left the room, the nurses told me to take out my camera and get all the shots I wanted. I did. Meanwhile, someone tried to steal the Mercedes symbol off the hood of our car in the parking garage and damaged the connecting mechanism. Drama followed us home. Mrs. Norton came to help. As I showered, I heard loud and helpless screams predicting imminent death, destruction, and disaster from Nedra and Mrs. Norton. I jumped out of the shower and after Will was breathing again, I realized I was standing naked in front of my mother-in-law.
Will’s origin goes back further. Nedra had had a miscarriage and was eager to get back on track. On the other hand, I had been away camping for several days as we canoed down the Ogeechee River. So, when I got home, I wanted nothing more than sleep, but Nedra got her way. Now, we have a Harrison, and who knows, he may name his son Henry (and Julia may contribute another Christine or Addie?). As an aside, I canoed the entire distance from beginning to end, but over several trips. Bartram would be proud that we retraced his steps, and I was proud that Will joined us on one segment several years later.
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PHOTO OF BIRTH ANNOUNCEMENT
pPHOTO OF PACKED MOVING TRAILER
PHOTO OF BIOCHEM BUILDING
PHOTO OF TOLBERT'S BEACH PLACE? WITH HER?/
PHOTO OF HER W w WILL ON ALAPAHA
pHOTO OF HER BATHING W IN FLORRISSANT.
Photocredits: Most are Nedra and Bill's collection.
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The Outlaws move to Missouri, where Elizabeth was born.
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June 2d, 1978, was a Friday; Elizabeth decided it was her day and Nedra sensed the time had come. Bill called his lab the first thing and told Jill Manchester née Kennedy, his technician and stepdaughter of Bill’s former mentor, Dr. Lowry, that he was going to take the day off. The lab had been anxiously awaiting this momentous event, and while the reason was not mentioned, Jill knew. Besides, as an assistant professor in the harshly competitive environment of Wash U, he could not take a day off unless it was really important, as this day was.
Recalling the long hours of waiting in the hospital for Will’s birth (and awaiting to learn whether a C-section was going to be required), Bill and Nedra decided to distract themselves, thus a shopping trip to the nearby Target to buy film. The clerk looked at N and wondered why we were at Target? The trip seemed normal then, though it doesn’t in the telling. After returning home about noon, Bill and Nedra went to St. Lukes West in tony Chesterfield, where Monsanto developed its campus. St. Lukes West was a large new hospital; St. Lukes had had a presence in St. Louis since the mid-1800s.
Nedra’s OB-GYN was Bryant Thompson (1935-2019), truly a doctor that could not be improved upon. His son, Jeffery, followed his father (clinical faculty at Wash U, OB-GYN, same practice) and an outsized number of Thompsons are affiliated with Wash U Medical School. In retirement Dr. Thompson enjoyed driving his John Deere tractor on his farm in southern Illinois and gardening at his home in Clayton. 😊 There are connections, always connections, even when they aren’t rooted out: Thompson was the surname of Bill’s 2d greatgrandfather; Elizabeth might remember that we visited his grave and had a personalized tour of his home, which had been moved to Brewton-Parker College, founded by Bill’s family, in Mount Vernon, GA.
Dr. Thompson came by in the early afternoon and decided to deliver Elizabeth in the early evening. He was happy to have Bill in the delivery room--that idea was of just catching on. When Elizabeth made her debut, Bill glanced at her and remarked to Nedra, “We have another baby boy.” The nurse said, “Look again.” Bill didn’t say much after that.
As Elizabeth was born, a delightful song was being played. You’ll have to see for yourself. So cool!
Will was part of the loop from the beginning. When Will first saw her, Elizabeth was in the display case with the other newborns. Once she was identified, Will headed to the side door planning to go in and get her and take her home right then. Of course, that plan was foiled, but it does capture his mindset.
As she did after Will’s birth, Mrs. Norton visited for a few days.
All along, Bill had mercilessly teased the Nashville Outlaws and they were beside themselves. He’d casually mentioned that Nedra went to her OB, but ignored follow-up questions. They knew she was pregnant, but they didn’t know. In the end, it was settled. Nedra’s announcement to them is at left. Of course, Granny kept it.
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The Outlaws move to Florida, where Bill had a 30-year career at FSU.
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Will and Elizabeth become independent.
Nedra was our Chief of Staff and the co-author of our lives. Every day, she nurtured us, guided us, supported us. In particular, Nedra was a dedicated mother, though all three of us are deeply indebted to her. As mentioned below, both Will and Elizabeth returned to their mom's open arms after college as they prepared for the next step in their lives. Their paths were consistent with the advice I gave them, viz. to become educated in a topic of interest and then gain the skills needed to earn a living and serve society.
Will first left home in Fall, 1993, to attend the College of William and Mary, from which he earned an A.B. in Classics and a minor in Chemistry in Fall, 19xx. He immediately returned to Florida State, where he had previously taken undergraduate and graduate courses while he was in high school and earned a degree in Biological Sciences. His final degree program was at the University of Florida (image at left), which was followed by xx years of xxx at blank.
Elizabeth's choice was the University of Georgia, where she began her program in Fall, 1996. Elizabeth's path had interesting detours. When she was a rising senior, she and a high-school friend, Beverly Bowers, took off to London, no job and no lodging. I aged 10 years that summer. It ended well, whew, and she completed her A.B. in Anthropology with a minor in French, Spring, 1999. Another opportunity presented itself: she was awarded xxxx by the xxxx, and she didn't hesitate. This turned out to be an opportunity for her mom, too, who visited with her for several weeks (image?). Like Will, Elizabeth returned to live with us while earning a masters at FSU (and teaching French at at Leon); one job has never been enough for Elizabeth. xxxJackson County xxx UA. Finally, Elizabeth earned her Ph.D. at the College of William & Mary in xxx (see image).
IMAGE OF WILL'S CERTIFICATE; xxx Will, do you have a photo of your mom associated w your going to W&M or UF?
IMAGE OF ELIZABETH'S CERTIFICATE.
xxx do you have a photo of you & your mom that is associated w your time in London or France or your education.
Photo credit; The images were provided by Elizabeth and Will.
(This section was written by Nedra's children, William and Elizabeth and her husband, Bill.)
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Glimpses of Nedra's Life throughout the Ages.
Introduction.
Recall that Nedra's development into womanhood and milestones along the way have been the focus of previous sections. In this section, we will remember Nedra's day-to-day lifeover timewith vignettes typical of her life. Please note that otrher relevant content appears in subsequent linked sections, e.g. her relationship with Bill's parents.
Dogs liked Nedra. SUGGESTIONS ON PARAGRAPH TITLES SO THEY WANT ALL BE THE SAME????
xMeco humanizing story.
PHOTO OF DOGS "FIGHTING" OVER NEDRA
Nedra participated in the social life of our lab.
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3-5 PHOTOGRAPHS--W SQZ AT CHINESE NEW YEAR+ IN LAB +WHATEVER I CAN FIND, E.G., PARTY W PING & DINNER IN LAB WHEN WHEN I COULDN'T SPARE THE TIME TO LEAVE + IF I CAN FIND, PHOTO W RUDIGER, KARTHIK, YUN, STEVE SPRINGER, GIANI, MITCH, OTHERS.
Nedra loved to sew.
pHOTOGRAPHS FROM HER WORK AREA, OF HER PRODUCTS
Nedra was the consummate home decorator.
pHOTOGRAPHS of HOUSE CONSTRUCTION, STENCILING, REFINISHED FURNITURE (IF i CAN FIND IT)
Nedra was fond of wild flowers.
pHOTOGRAPHS her planting wildflowers, of various wild flowers she loved
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